Why Forgiveness?

Our life is filled with unwanted clutter… both physical and emotional. Physical clutter is what we can still deal with but how do we handle the mental and Emotional baggage we have?

I once met a woman whose son suffered from thalassemia.  He needed frequent blood transfusions. She had a daughter who was hale and hearty and often prayed to God to cure her brother. But what happened later was tragic. The daughter who was barely 5 years old died of a brief illness! This woman was devastated.  Even though it was a few years back she still carried her grief… fresh as ever. She looked at my daughter and said that her daughter was just like mine. My heart went out to her. What could we do other than sympathise and provide a bit of counseling!

How do we deal  with such situations? How do we deal with grief? Can we ever find peace and happiness after being through such situations?

All we can do is try. It is difficult to let go of memories, to let go of guilt, to let go of the feelings attached to loved ones and situations.  However that is the first step towards healing.

We need to forgive ourselves,  we need to realise that living through those moments repeatedly only causes more suffering to us. We need to learn to live life… We need to allow ourselves to heal. The void left behind by the absence of a loved one can never be filled but learning to live with it is the key.

Hence today start with writing down all the thoughts that are filling your mind. The good,bad and ugly.  Ponder on each of them.  If they are your past forgive yourself and the situations. Write down next to the thoughts… I forgive myself and the people involved as well as the situation. 

Forgiveness is the first step in finding peace of mind from a turbulent past. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t fight for justice. It only means that the past circumstances are not a cause for your suffering anymore.

Let’s not let our past destroy our present and future.

Where can you reduce clutter in your life?